Eejaculatio praecox, or premature ejaculation, is a common sexual dysfunction characterized by ejaculation that occurs too early during intercourse. This form of sexual dysfunction can have many causes, including psychological factors such as anxiety, stress, or depression, but also physiological ones such as an overly sensitive penis, hormonal problems, or nerve damage.
While there is no one-size-fits-all cure for premature ejaculation, there are many different home remedies that may help to alleviate the problem.
What Qualifies as Premature Ejaculation?
This question can vary based on the length of time a couple typically spends engaging in intercourse. For some, premature ejaculation may be defined as ejaculation that occurs within one minute of penetration. For others, it may be defined as ejaculation that occurs before the other partner reaches orgasm. In general, however, premature ejaculation is considered to be any time a man ejaculates sooner than he or his partner would like.
How Long Does Sex Usually Last?
Research has shown that on average, the most desirable length of sex is from seven to thirteen minutes. Anything under two minutes is considered to be too short, and anything once you've reached over thirteen minutes, it can be too long.
A 2005 study declared that the average amount of time it took a man to climax during intercourse is 5.4 minutes. This figure may seem surprising, but it's in line with other studies that have been conducted over the years.
Media, pornography, and pop culture can play a role in setting unrealistic expectations for how long sex should last. This, in turn, can lead to anxiety and performance pressure that can exacerbate premature ejaculation. So when it comes to how long sex should last, it's important to keep in mind that there is no "normal" or "right" answer. Every couple is different, and what works for one may not work for another.
Home Remedies for Premature Ejaculation
There are many different home remedies that have been traditionally used to treat premature ejaculation. Some of these home remedies may work for some men, but not for others. It's important to experiment to see what works best for you and your partner.
Ask your doctor before trying any of these home remedies, as some of them may interact with medications you are currently taking.
1. Start-Stop Technique
The start-stop technique is a common treatment for premature ejaculation. To do this technique, you or your partner stimulate your penis until you feel like you are about to ejaculate. At that point, stimulation is stopped for 30 seconds to 1 minute. This process is then repeated 3 to 5 times before allowing you to ejaculate.
Similar to edging, the stop-start technique can help you last longer during sex by training your body to better control your ejaculatory reflex. It also will provide you with a more satisfying experience, as you will be able to prolong the pleasure you feel during sex, and have a stronger orgasm.
2. Premature Ejaculation Wipes and Local Anesthetic Creams
Numbing wipes and sprays that are applied to the penis can help to delay ejaculation. These products work by temporarily numbing the sensation in your penis, which can help you last longer during sex. The downside to using these products is that they can also numb your partner's genitals, which can reduce pleasure for both of you.
Numbing wipes are typically used right before sex. They are applied to the head of the penis and can last for up to an hour. Numbing sprays are applied 5 to 10 minutes before sex and typically last for 30 minutes.
Local anesthetic creams can also be used to numb the sensation in your penis. These creams are applied to the head of the penis and typically last for 30 to 60 minutes, depending on the product. Just like numbing wipes and sprays, local anesthetic creams can also numb your partner's genitals, which can reduce pleasure during sex.
Lidocaine spray is one type of numbing spray that is available over the counter. It is important to talk to your doctor before using any type of numbing product, as some can cause allergic reactions. The use of numbing products has not been thoroughly studied, so it is important to use them with caution.
3. Condoms That Desensitize
Some condoms are designed to help men last longer during sex by desensitizing the penis. These condoms contain a small amount of anesthetic, such as benzocaine, which helps to numb the sensation in your penis. These don't numb your partner's genitals, which is an upside compared to numbing sprays and creams.
These condoms are often marketed as "delay" condoms or "premature ejaculation" condoms. They are available over the counter and typically last for about 30 minutes.
4. Pelvic Floor Exercises
Pelvic floor exercises, also called Kegel exercises, can help strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. To do a Kegel exercise, squeeze the muscles you would use to stop the flow of urine. Hold the squeeze for three seconds, then release. Repeat this exercise 10 to 20 times per day.
Kegels can be done by either partner, and they benefit both men and women. For men, Kegels can improve ejaculatory control and prevent premature ejaculation. For women, Kegels can improve vaginal muscle tone and reduce urinary incontinence. When done together, Kegels can help improve both partners’ sexual experiences.
There are natural supplements that are sometimes used to treat premature ejaculation. However, there is little scientific evidence to support their use. Some of the most common supplements used include:
- Zinc: Testosterone levels are often low in men with premature ejaculation. Zinc supplements may help to improve sexual function because its a fundamental building block of testosterone. Zinc can be found in foods like oysters, beef, and dark chocolate, or it can be taken as a supplement.
- L-carnitine: L-carnitine is an amino acid that's found in red meat and dairy products. It's sometimes used as a supplement to treat sexual dysfunction. There is some evidence that L-carnitine may help with premature ejaculation, but more research is needed. It is suspected that L-carnitine may help improve sexual function by increasing blood flow to the penis.
- Ayurvedic herbal medicine: Ayurveda is a traditional system of medicine from India. There are several herbal remedies used in Ayurveda that are thought to treat premature ejaculation. Some of these herbs include ashwagandha, shatavari, and guduchi.
Ashwagandha may help with anxiety and stress, both of which can contribute to premature ejaculation. Shatavari may help to increase libido and improve sexual function. Guduchi is an antioxidant that's thought to have a variety of health benefits, including improved sexual function.
These supplements are generally considered safe when used as directed. However, they can interact with other medications, so it's important to talk to your doctor before taking any supplements.
- Chinese herbal medicines such as Yimusake tablets or Qilin pills have also been traditionally used to treat premature ejaculation. These medicines are a mix of different herbs, and their exact composition varies depending on the manufacturer.
Chinese herbal medicines are not regulated by the FDA, and their safety and effectiveness have not been proven. These medicines may interact with other medications and can have side effects. Therefore, it's important to talk to your doctor before taking any Chinese herbal medicines.
6. Cock-Rings and Penis Pumps
Both of these devices are available without a prescription and can be used as needed. However, it's important to use cock-rings and penis pumps safely to avoid injury.
Cock-rings are placed at the base of the penis. They work by constricting the blood flow to the penis, which can help delay ejaculation by reducing sensation. It's important to only wear a cock-ring for a short period of time, as wearing it for too long can cause bruising or damage to the penis.
Penis pumps are placed over the penis. They work by creating a vacuum around the penis, which can help delay ejaculation by keeping the blood in the penis for a longer period of time. It's important to only use a penis pump for a short period of time, as using it for too long can cause bruising or damage to the penis.
7. Masturbate More Often
Premature ejaculation may be caused by simply being more sensitive than average. If this is the case, masturbating more often can help “desensitize” you and make sex last longer.
Anxiety about sex or performance can also lead to premature ejaculation. If this is the case, masturbating before sex can help you last longer, as you’ll be less anxious and more relaxed during intercourse, if you've reached a higher state of arousal before sex.
8. Try Different Positions
Certain sexual positions can make premature ejaculation more likely. If this is the case, experiment with different positions to see if it helps you last longer. Avoid positions that put pressure on your abdomen, as this can increase the risk of premature ejaculation.
9. Keep a Healthy Lifestyle
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can help reduce the risk of premature ejaculation. This means eating a healthy diet, exercising regularly, and getting enough sleep. Reducing stress can also help, as stress can contribute to premature ejaculation.
Diet and exercise both play a role in sexual health. Eating a healthy diet can improve blood flow to the genitals, which can make sex more pleasurable. Exercise can improve stamina and reduce stress. Getting enough sleep is also important, as fatigue can lead to premature ejaculation.
10. Talk to a Therapist
If premature ejaculation is affecting your quality of life, talking to a therapist can help. A therapist can help you identify any psychological factors that may be contributing to your premature ejaculation and help you find ways to manage them.
The Bottom Line
Premature ejaculation is a common sexual problem that affects men of all ages. There are many different home remedies that have been traditionally used to treat premature ejaculation. Some of these home remedies may work for some men, but not for others. It's important to experiment to see what works best for you and your partner.
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